Man Without a Face, The – DivX Version (Normal Quality), DVD (Good Quality), PDA Version
22 11 2009|
IMDB rating: 6.40 Plot: The story of a relationship between a teacher and his troubled pupil. Justin McLeod is a former teacher who lives as a recluse on the edge of town. His face is disfigured from an automobile accident and fire ten years before in which a boy was incinerated and for which he was convicted of involuntary manslaughter. He is also suspected of being a pedophile. He is befriended by Chuck, causing the town’s suspicion and hostility to be ignited. McLeod inculcates in his protege a love of justice and freedom from prejudice which sustains him beyond the end of the film. |
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Actors: Gibson Mel,Stahl Nick,Lewis Geoffrey,Masur Richard,DeLuise Michael,Phillips Ethan,De Mave Jack,Kanew Justin,Kellman Sean,Lineburg Chris,Drama,
Is it a mark of strength for a man not to show his emotions?
In the US at least there is a lot of pressure on men to be almost robotic in their lives. I know some will say it doesn’t exist but think about it. Men, when was the last time you were so happy you made an emotional display in public? Cried because you were sad? Especially in public? Would you tell your best friend you love them? Some guys don’t even hug their own father much less a friend. Could you do any of these things without feeling as though others are looking at you funny? Thinking you were fruity or something? Could you even do them without looking at your self funny? A man isn’t supposed to feel fear, when faced with danger you should not run. You should protect those around you that may not be able to protect themselves like women and children. This leaves us with one emotional response that is partially acceptable… Anger… Which we all know is not a virtues thing.
So as a man you cannot love your friends.
You cannot show fear.
You cannot show sadness or weakness.
You cannot show joy.
You should not show anger.
Notice that I put show, men still feel all of these emotions, we just cannot outwardly express them for fear of ridicule. This is just what I felt and influenced me the turn out the way I did. Lots of walls though a stable person.
I think it’s a mark of strength for anyone to be able to put a barrier of rationality between their emotions and their outward reactions to things.
This is why it’s normal (if discouraged) for a two-year-old to throw herself to the floor screaming and kicking when she doesn’t get a piece of candy, and it’s disturbing if she does the same thing at 20, or 40.
I agree with most of the gender roles that earlier versions of feminism tore down, but I think they tore down the wrong side of this one. Traditionally, men are expected to be more stoic and more able to control their reactions to hardship, while it was tolerable for women to act a bit more childishly, because society thought less of their ability to do otherwise. In tearing down that gender role, I think that society in general should raise its expectation of all of us to be MORE stoic and emotionally stable in the recognition that we’re all capable of it (not just the men); we shouldn’t lower our universal standard to the lesser of the two gender roles and think it’s somehow admirable for someone to throw a tantrum when they’re having a hard time.
CAustin II | Nov 19, 2009
No, I think it takes a stronger man to come in touch with his own "femininity." I’ve never had any real relationship with my father but when I asked him if he’d cry at my funeral and he responded "I don’t know" that was going a little too far with the "men shouldn’t cry" idea.
highonlifeagain! | Nov 19, 2009
Yea that’s so true, which is why it takes a really strong man who is comfortable with himself to express emotions since they will get, as you say, ridiculed by society if they do. Emotions are a human thing, not gender based, so it doesn’t make sense that men can’t show them
Drama247 | Nov 19, 2009
wow that’s something I haven’t really given a lot of thought about I guess their is really lots of stigma regarding men outwardly showing emotion being positive or negative it seems really rather unfair I think if a man cries because some one he loves has passed away that he is not weak just grieving if he cries and the birth of his child he is over joyed I see nothing wrong with display-es of emotion in either gender
HAILEY | Nov 19, 2009
I’ve seen men cry at funerals, and not one single person has every said there was something wrong with that.
The only time I ever show unabashed joy, like most other synthetic organic chemists, is when I get a new reaction to work. We are the happiest people on Earth when that happens and we don’t give a f*** who sees us.
If men didn’t run in danger, we wouldn’t have very many soldiers, now would we?
But you do have a legitimate claim and I have noticed these things as well. Much of that are problems inherent in the narcissistic, homophobic society of the US, and is not so much of a problem in other cultures.
There are other reasons men have to be this way. In the past it was a very difficult and dangerous thing to be a man. If you showed weakness you were libel to be seen as weak and you adversaries may attack and kill you. A man had to appear to be strong and in control at all times or he was dead meat.
EDIT: To the women that think men are controlled by their emotions, and think like women, but that we hide our emotions:
Men do have emotions, but we are not controlled by them, and our brains are not hardwired to see all interactions through the haze of our emotional turmoil, like women are. I have no problem with women being emotional, and acting like women, so why do you so desperately try to feminize us, when we just don’t see or feel things to the same degree or same way as you women? That is why we consider the attempt to turn us into weeping pansies, as "man-hating." Accept us as we are.
Truthseeker | Nov 19, 2009
It’s the man who can show his emotions that shows strength. He isn’t letting others dictate how he should and should not be. Now, having said that, I agree completely with everything you said here. It is a shame when we as a society deem it weak if a man shows any emotion but at the same token, we wonder when a man is emotionless almost apathetic. I don’t understand why if a man does express his feelings, it is considered showing his feminine side. Why is this only feminine? You said it yourself, you cannot outwardly express these feelings. They are feelings and we all have them. Some at different degree than others.
browneyedgirl | Nov 19, 2009
While I agree with Caustin that emotion should be controlled, I disagree with the idea that complete stoicism is the best path. Humans are emotional. We can express emotion without letting it control us. I don’t think it’s emasculating for a man to be able to express feeling for friends, or fear or anything else. It doesn’t mean he has to weep in public, but he also doesn’t have to be a robot.
Tronix | Nov 19, 2009
Yes, that’s the idea. However new egalitarian society and women especially want to continue to hold men to these standards, yet not tell them of their reward. So men grow up these days thinking that simply being a decent, nice personable human is enough to make them socially successful; and when they fail they find it inexplicable and don’t know how to cope. It’s truly a social crime how men are slighted these days.
Bj | Nov 19, 2009
I think it takes more strength for a person to be unashamed of their feelings. I once heard someone say, "there is no shame in tears, if they’ve a good reason to be shed". I’d say that sums it up pretty well. I’m not saying we should all revel in our feelings, or that we should never hold things in until we can vent them privately….but there are times when it’s okay for a man to be afraid, to show vulnerability like hurt or grief or loneliness, to show compassion, to say "I love you".
It makes me sad that men have this double standard to live with: that women can be emotional but they cannot because it’s "weak". It’s not right.
Blue-Eyed Christian | Nov 19, 2009
I think it’s weakness
Blueberry Head | Nov 19, 2009
Not strength, but merely restraint or discipline…assuming he’s not helplessly high on dope at the time.
We don’t fear ridicule–it’s simply there are relatively few things worth showing emotion over, and they get fewer and fewer as you get older. Life becomes predictable.
Savvy Bulge, Relapsed | Nov 19, 2009
no its sexist to think that men have to be stoic all the time obviously
Dior | Nov 19, 2009
I think you’re a little confused. Men can’t hide ALL their emotions. Also its not a strength to show ALL your emotions, ALL the time. It is a strength to be able to control and conquer your emotions. Because certain situation a man OF THE WORLD have to do this. The ability to show your emotions have nothing to do with not loving your friends, hugging your father, etc. But some men don’t like to show the more "feminine" emotions, which is okay. Just like some women don’t like showing the more "masculine" emotions. Its a time and place for everything. Even showing and not showing your emotions.
TS | Nov 20, 2009
To emote is to show one’s humanity. It is also very healthy, if done within the confines of self-control and reasonableness.
kap | Nov 20, 2009
